Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov

My preferred genre of reading material is fiction, but once in a while I come across a book that I enjoy almost as much as I enjoy my normal reading material. Why Men Marry Bitches by Sherry Argov is one of those books.  The book is a ‘self-help’ book, or a guide for women about relationships with men.   The tag line of the book reads “Let him chase you until you catch him”. She tackles on answering questions such as ‘why do men deliberately push a women’s emotional buttons’ and ‘how can you invite proposal without saying a word’

Unlike normal self-help books, this one is not in the least boring. In fact, it’s one of the funniest books I have read in a long time.  I must even admit that after reading the book twice, I sometimes used to revisit the guide of “relationship principles”. In her book she gives the relationship principles, yet she explains it to you with tongue-in-the-cheek humor and downright silly/funny stories.  Here is one of them:

Imagine a world in which roles were reversed and men cooked for women, picked up socks, and couldn’t wait to get married. Pretend you had a boyfriend who owned a hope chest with six lavender bow ties inside that he wanted his groomsmen to wear at the wedding. Picture him getting choked up every time you strolled past a Baby Gap. And that he greeted you at the door wearing silk boxers and cowboy boots, so he could do a pole dance for you. Then add a few ultimatums:

“Where’s my ring?
“Why won’t you marry me?”

Chances are, you would assume the guy wasn’t firing on all cylinders. And then you’d start planning your escape. “It’s not you, it’s me. [Translation: It’s definitely you.] I’m too busy with work. I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Then you’d blow out the door…like TNT(Sherry Argov, Why Men Marry Bitches)

Here is her trying to paint a picture explaining to a woman the reason why most men run away when being forced into a commitment, and I must admit if I were to be put into this situation I completely understand. I would run away too!! 😀

In conclusion, I thoroughly enjoyed this book.  When I started out reading this book I thought that maybe this lady is going to tell me something I don’t know already… and quite frankly she didn’t. All the information she gives or talks about in this book are plain common sense. It’s just that we don’t practice it, we conform into how we THINK we should act in a relationship, such as cook and clean for him, be his slave, be docile, when in fact those are the exact things that you shouldn’t be doing (unless you’re married, I think)

If you don’t mind, I would like to discuss some of Sherry’s “relationship principles”

“There’s nothing more prized to a man than something he had to wait for, work for, or struggle a little bit to get.”

I completely agree with this one, Miss Argov. If you hand everything to a man on a silver platter, will he really respect you for it? Why do we make it so easy for them? To me, I personally feel that if you make him work for it he will appreciate you more.

“You can tell how much someone respects you by how much he respects your opinion. If he doesn’t respect your opinion, he won’t respect you.”

This one I have been shown various times and not only by men.  Take a work situation for example… in most cases, if a person don’t want to listen to your opinion it’s more than likely they don’t respect you.  Do we honestly believe that a man who doesn’t respect or value your opinion actually respects us?

“Men are intrigued by anything they do not completly control.”

I don’t even have to say anything  about this one – we all know it is true.

“Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.”

This is one of the reason why many of my acquaintances never become friends.  This applies to every area of your life. If someone treats you badly, they shouldn’t be in your life.

 “Men dont respond to words. what they respond to is no contact.”

OK ladies – this works. And this is common sense!! How many times have you moaned, complained, cried, shouted and screamed and yet he doesn’t listen to you, which only frustrates you more.  This is one of the things I didn’t practice. I always value communication in a relationship.  Then one day I tried this… After telling him how I feel and have him not listen to me or respect my feelings I decided to ignore him.  And guess what? I had numerous missed calls and SMS’d that goes like this “Why are you so quiet?”, “Is something wrong?”, “Why are you not replying!!”, “Where are you!?”, “Are you upset?”… YES I AM UPSET and then finally he listened… 😉

“The only reason men like stupid women is so they can take advantage of them – in a short term. A quality guy worth his salt wants a partner who is competent and multidimensional. Someone who can handle things when he’s not around.”

True. This.

“When a man sees you wearing very revealing clothes, he’ll usually assume you don’t have anything else going for you”

Same here, I have nothing to say.

Have you read her book? If so, which are your favourite quotes?

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Quotes retrieved from goodreads and brokenheart911

You can go check out some more excerpts here (this is also where I got the excerpt from above)